52 weeks
It has been 52
weeks today since we started our Friday morning with a drive together to
Billings and ended our Friday bloody and broken on that same road. There was nothing in particular about that
day; just a routine day of work and home school, followed by a dinner date with
our girls and shopping for Easter dresses and spring chicks. Then out of the dark of night a catastrophe
came upon us, spinning us off the road, off the course we thought we were on,
and into chaos, pain and months of uncertainty that have continued now 52 weeks
later.
To be certain,
today is not as horrific as that night ended.
Not even close. But today is not
as carefree as that day started either.
I truly believe that I have felt the weight of every day this year. If it were possible, I feel like I have lived
1000 days in the last 365. Worn from
nights filled with nightmares and restless sleep, night terrors that rattle our
little girls, and nights spent pleading and praying for the freedom of our
oldest girl. Sometimes I still wake with
their lingering screams of terror echoing in my head until I realize that I am
safely in my room. I have awoken to
the vision of Naomi, still as death, mangled in the seat next to me, and I
swear that she is really gone. My breath
will not fill my chest and I cannot
believe that she actually lived. But
then sleep passes from my eyes, and I stare into the night sky from by bedroom
and realize that she is still here, alive, lovely, but chained by pain that has
never left her body. Relief and grief
come over me and I try to fall back to sleep, most times successful after
prayer and tears. If I kick the blankets off me and get chilled, I will wake up
in the middle of the road, standing over Kit, mutilated, shivering; but then I
hear and feel him next to me, warm in our bed.
Tears. I am worn by tears. Certainly I am the daughter of man who is
very in touch with his feelings, and so crying isn’t something I am
unaccustomed to. However, this year I
have tear streaked more pages of multiple journals than I ever thought
possible. Tears of gratitude. Tears of pleading. Tears that come from the stress of medical
visit after medical visit, medical bills that never quit coming, courtrooms and
legal terms and lawyers. Tears that
began in relief when we finally
realized what exactly was hurting Naomi, and then turned into heartache when we
realized that she is facing the uncertainty that comes with uncommon genetic
conditions. However, I am comforted by
the knowledge that the Bible says that God collects our tears in a bottle. I am praying that He will collect ours and
pour them out over us in continued showers of blessings.
I am worn by the
emotional highs and lows that come from feeling that every single day is a
gift. Nothing can be taken for
granted. Nothing. Not a single breath. Each minute that we have since that night
feels like it was not meant to be, but we were spared, and so there is no such
thing as mundane anymore. Mundane is
comfortable, and there is peace that comes from the rhythms of the mundane in
life. Some days I feel like I recognize
our lives, with the background of chaos that is created in a family with 6
children. But then I am met with the
reality that our rhythms are different now than they were just 52 weeks
ago. One child is still struggling, far
from vibrant life, and we are adjusting to life with ongoing medical care. In 2 weeks she will leave us for 2 months to
fight for her health. She will spend 2 long months across the country with a
man who understands her injuries and she will hopefully learn how to move past
this year of physical pain. So while
she is gone, our family rhythms will be different still. I miss mundane sometimes.
This year has also had some of the most intensely beautiful moments we
have ever experienced as well. On that
horrid night Naomi awoke from what I believed was death and cried out my
name. Just hours later a man held my
hand and told me that Kit was not going to die.
We are certain Faith saw the angel that carried her daddy out of our
car, and then again that angel appeared out of the dark and prayed over him on
the road. Those were just the beginnings of beauty in
the darkness. We have been the
recipients of other human’s acts of sacrifice and love. We have been fed and clothed and provided for
when we could not provide for ourselves.
We have had more prayers uttered with our names than ever before. God has seen fit to bless us with new
friendships that feel as if they skipped right over the precursory “get to know
you” months, and straight into the real and deep. Skilled medical hands and tender hearts have
served us medically time and again with compassion and earnest effort. God has opened doors for expert medical care
that I could not have created for myself, even being a doctor. Our sons have come along side us, and become
men in so many ways. Selfless and
sacrificing, they have served our family’s needs over and over and over. They are becoming like “shelter from the wind
and refuge from the storms, like streams of water in the desert and shadows of
a great rock in a thirsty land.” (Isaiah
32:2)
And here in the
hardest year of our lives, God has been faithful to His word. Revealing the
“treasures of the darkness” (Isaiah 45:3), he has shown us that there is no
darkness in Him. He is full of love and
abounding in mercy. He is always
fighting for our hearts, striving for the good in our life. He has sent angels to encamp around us, to
carry us. He has made us radiant as we
gaze upon Him and experience His goodness.
He has shown us very personal ways that he made us and prepared us to
save us that night…and the nights after.
He created a girl who stretches more than most, and her neck didn’t
break in that car because it could stretch.
He made a man with extra veins in his leg that would provide good blood
flow after a blood clot would completely fill his main blood flow pathway. He helped me listen and learn well lessons in
medical school that would eventually come back to me, almost 15 years later, to
unlock the keys to our daughter’s freedom.
He has sung over me in nights
long with fear, that He is always with me, He never changes. His word has calmed my heart, when no other human
words could.
As I look at the
pictures of our car that night, as I remember the sounds and forces of violence
I still have a hard time reconciling the breath I just exhaled. Outside of miracles and God’s express plan
and purpose for our life that is not yet complete we didn’t live that night. The middle of this journey is messy, and
seems to be far from over. This year on
the anniversary of that night we are once again apart as a family. The boys and I are headed to New Mexico to
say good-bye to my grandpa, and celebrate his 89 year long journey on this
earth. Kit is home with sweet Teags and
our girls, one who is sick, one who is sassy and one who is wounded. But
even though we are apart, and worn, and fragile, we are all still alive. We are treading through the deeps, where
trust in our Creator is our only hope.
We awake each day, thankful that we are here, listening for His voice
and direction. We hold onto plans we
make loosely, and hold onto him, searching for His direction in each
moment.
Here in the deep we
are worn. Weathered. Molded more beautifully into the people God
desires us to be. We have more gray and
less brown atop our heads. There are
sweet fine lines from smiling and crying and living another 365 days in aging
bodies. Our hearts are more sensitive
than they have ever been before. Our
hands are quick to serve others, reaching out from a deep well of gratitude and
love that is dug over time and years like this one.
The day after the
wreck, I was finally wheeled into Kit’s hospital room, as I couldn’t walk the
15 feet from my room to his. (Remarkable
really, as only hours before I had walked more than 70 feet from our car to
where he landed.) At his side, holding
his hand, surrounded by our friends and family, I began to cry. “I want to go back to dinner last night. It was so sweet and fun,” I cried. He gently shook his head, looking at me with
love that I have never felt so deeply, “No, love, you don’t. God didn’t save us for dinner last night to
be the sweetest part of our lives. He brought
us through last night alive for something far better than dinner.” So here we are, 52 weeks later, walking with
hope into the all that our future holds, whatever God has planned for our
lives. “’For I know the plans I have for
you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to
give you hope and a future.’” Jeremiah 29:11
“I love the Lord, for
he heard my voice; he heard my cry for mercy….
Death wrapped its
ropes around me; the anguish of the grave overtook me.
I saw only trouble
and sorrow.
Then I called on the
name of the Lord: LORD, save me!”
How kind the LORD
is! How good he is! So merciful, this God of ours!
The LORD protects
those of childlike faith; I was facing death, and he saved me.
Return to your rest,
my soul, for the LORD has been good to you.
For you, Lord, have
delivered me from death, my eyes from tears, my feet from stumbling,
That I may walk
before the LORD in the land of the living.”
Psalms 116
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